Pay-offs Part 1: What are they?

There’s this thing that happens as humans where…when something doesn’t go our way, we make up a story about it, and based on that story, we develop beliefs about ourself and the world, and based on those beliefs we start to see the world differently. And the problem is, we’ve been doing that since we were 2.

Ever feel like you are just learning the same lesson over and over again? Or that you keep ending up in the same relationship, same let down, same situation at work, same injury, same illness, etc?

Here’s the key (well, one of!): pay-offs. In this belief cycle, we start to develop a reward system, where we actually GET something out of these annoying, negative circumstances (like shitty relationships, or injuries, etc).

Listen up to see what I mean.

Do you see it already? Where in your life does this cycle show up?

Still not sure? Click to the next video to learn more.

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